Friday, August 10, 2012

House Rules

I have been joining in on a parenting group here in the valley.  It is called Parenting in the Park and it has been a wonderful way to get out of the house this summer and connect with other parents.  Last week we had a discussion on Loving Discipline.  

One of things we discussed was house rules.  Rules that are set and therefore not a battle to enforce.  That said depending on the age of the child there will be some daily struggle to teach and remind them of the rules.  The following is a quick format of what has been working for us right now.  Please let me know if you have any questions in the comments.

1.       Feeling are ok
a.       Hurting people because of feeling is not
b.      You may stomp your feet or go outside to yell or punch your pillow.
2.       Use your words to have a better day
a.       Use calm pleasant voice when asking for things (no whining or yelling)
b.      Phrases to encourage
                                                               i.      I need some help
                                                             ii.      Please stop
                                                            iii.      No thank you
3.       If words aren’t working take a deep breath and try again or walk away
4.       Respect others turn/wait your turn
This is just a general idea for what we do around our house. 
One of the things that help us the most is to talk things through before the situations happen ie: We are going to walk to the park to day.  I need you to listen to me and stay close because we will be crossing streets with cars and bikes and we want to stay safe.   We are going to have some friends over and they are going to want to share your toys.  Remember when you were at Ella’s house and she shared her toys with you.

Friday, June 15, 2012

First Day of Summer

It felt like a good first day of summer anyway.  Picking strawberries and getting a box full of veggies at the farmers market.  And how could I not let her play in the freezing cold fountain.  Look at how happy it made her!
Who is the grown up little girl?!  She is only and already 3!!!

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

I am giving up Clutter for Lent

No I am not Catholic or any religion that actual observes Lent.  I just like the idea of giving something up to renew your life.  My general plan is to try for 40 bags of clutter/trash/junk out of my house.  I got this idea from Clover Lane (love her ideas and her encouragement for the week posts).  Not only am I getting rid of clutter but going to attempt to fix the problem that created clutter in the first place.  To do this I will buy shelves, place bins, and beautify the spaces.

Now to the first space.  Kinda of a weird one but as my husband put it he was tired of having to put on shoes to go do laundry.  Our laundry room is build into the garage and is very much a little narrow hallway of a room.

Everything cleaned out and my darling husband scrubbing the floor.

As  you can see the floor is very ugly and stained and very unappealing.  And this is after we he cleaned everything out!

This the sink which was full of "things" to be washed.  And those are the cupboards that you hit your head on if you try to use the sink.  My plan is to remove them to the garage, put up shelves that will take up less space and leave the room feeling more open.

Here is a picture of everything that was shoved into the room.

Yes that is a bag full of garbage (#1 of the 40) and the two laundry soap containers are empty I was saving them for the time I would make my own soap......
The pile of clothes are half clean and half dirty (now mostly clean because I can move in the room again!)

On the floor we decide to use the same peel and stick tile that we used in our hallway bathroom. And the change is amazing!

Now I feel the need to fix and paint the walls. And can't wait to move the cupboards out but that is all for another day.

Friday, February 3, 2012

February 3rd-Winter or Spring?

This afternoon we spent a half hour in the garden digging in the dirt and cleaning up one of four raised beds.  After which I came inside and opened all of my windows!  This is crazy people! I live in Oregon in the Willamette Valley (last week with snow and flooding!). 

Not that I am complaining especially the part of me that wilts with the sun goes behind the clouds!

And look at the progress we made!  Aili and I were really happy to find lots of worms working to make the soil great for spring planting.  It feels like that is just around the corner!

Sunday, January 15, 2012


A rare snow day on the Valley floor and some good news!  First the snow.

The good news is I have reached a blogging milestone (at least it is for me!)  I have reached over 100 views of a single post!  Check it out here!

Thank you all!

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Happy Birthday and New Year!

Hello!  I would love to share some wonderful things I did last year and maybe some wonderful things I will do this year!! I am sharing these on my birthday because I was too lazy to do them on the first it seemed more fitting than on the first!

Photo Credit: Salvatore Vuono

Last year we (hubs and I) sat down and took a good hard look at the budget.  Oh yuck!  It is no fun to sit down and see how much money you do not have but it had to be done.  We did a combination of Dave Ramsey's (the envelope method and savings plan) and took some advice from Gussy about budgeting every last dollar.  The only money we didn't budget was my income from Scentsy since it was so irregular; we instead used it to pay for unforeseen bills or it went directly to debt.

Now I was all for paring down to no extra money but the hubs needed some extra money to have a little fun with so the compromising began!  And we worked it out without killing each other!  And  to tell you the truth it was a lot easier having a budget than not.

End result: Paying off the windows on our house ($11,000 on a credit card), a trip to Hawaii for me without putting any money on a credit card, and the piece of mind that we will be living freer in 2012!

We will continue along the same path with adjustments to the budget as needed until we have all debt paid off (student loans and house remaining).  But it feels so amazing to look back and see that if you do set goals and make a plan things really do happen!

Nieces and Nephews Oregon Coast Dec. 2011

Next was/is a personal goal of mine, to get outside more.  To go hiking, biking, walking, work in yard and go letter boxing/geocaching.  I did get out more than I did the previous year but there were still way too many days we stayed inside.  Days where I convinced my daughter to do other activities instead of going for that walk.

This year I will write out my goals and make them measurable (and maybe get a better raincoat) so that I will have no excuses not to just get out and go!!

Oregon Coast Sunset Dec. 2011

Another very personal goal was also set by my husband and I.  I will not go into details but pretty much any parent will know how important this type of goal time for  mommy and daddy.  We followed the advice of this woman.  And I have to say if any of this at all sounds like you and your spouse try it!! Do it (hee hee) for 2 months and tell me if it doesn't change your (sex) life.

My last goal was made part way through the year and that was TO BLOG MORE!!!!  And if you have been following along you will know that I have met that goal.  So for the year to come I will change that goal to blog more consistently and learn how to take better photos by doing projects like this! Thanks for following along and have a great new year!!